Rediscovery of Me

One-Sided Love of Being Me

My Rediscovery of Me after a Lifetime of Being a We Embracing my newfound autonomy after divorce I awoke this morning with a big smile. Today is the day my new television arrives. I’ve splurged — kind of, but not really. It’s a 55″ OLED flat-screen TV. For most people, this purchase probably would have been a no-big-deal — a no-brainer. … Read more

Porn Isn’t A Problem?

Porn Addiction Problem

And He Said Porn Was Not a Problem? The impact regular porn use had on my self-esteem and the health of my marriage. My stomach dropped as I read another opinion piece in defense of pornography. It warned regular pornography usage by male partners should be expected, and it excused secret-keeping. Upset female partners were characterized as … Read more

First Dates and 50-Something-Year-Old Men

Problem First Dates

My Problem with First Dates and Fifty-Something-Year-Old Men How to improve the art of conversation A Recent First Date As I recently stepped into an unfamiliar, upscale restaurant, I smiled at my date’s choice of venue for our first meeting. He chose the perfect place to get to know someone better. The crowd was sparse for … Read more

When Spiritual Advice Does More Harm than Good

Harm Spiritual Bypassing

The danger of using spiritual bypassing as a form of support I pulled up my Twitter feed and saw that one of my favorite Christian authors had just posted. She wrote, “Fear begs us to focus on our problems more than God’s promises.” Her tweet had hit too close to home as I continue to wait … Read more