Contrary to popular belief, there’s less sex, not more. I used to think a sex addict’s marriage must be full of passionate adventures. My imagination pictured these couples experimenting with fun sex positions and escapades in exciting locations — like doing it on the kitchen island with plenty of whipped cream. I had no idea that it is […]
Month: June 2020
My Privileged Ignorance About Racial Issues
Black Lives Matter must live on, and it starts with me waking up. I watched the brief replays of George Floyd’s death with horror and my privileged position life filled me with shame. Everything within me screamed, “Get off his neck, you’re killing him! Please, oh please, get off of his neck!” I can’t imagine the […]
How Being Divorced Has Made Me Fearful
I don’t want to make the same mistake twice. Nearly a month ago, I stopped dating as I adjust to being divorced. A couple of times my finger hovered over one of the two online dating apps downloaded on my phone before I distracted myself with something else. The regular emails that show up in my […]
My Private Battle With Poor Body Image
Passed on by the women who went before me and fueled by our culture It’s another hot day in Texas. I put on a bathing suit and head out to sit on the patio, where I can enjoy the poolside view. Looking sideways, I catch a glimpse of myself reflected in the sliding glass door. There […]
Taking a Moment to Review CoSchedule
Saving Time with Great Tools Blogging is a time-consuming venture. There’s writing the article, editing, finding just the right photo, and then creating a kick-ass title. I haven’t even began to discuss what goes in to making what you wrote searchable (can you say, SEO Optimization?) Oh boy! It’s easily a full-time job, yet is […]
How Being Ghosted Improved My Life
Accept people will come and go. Five years ago, when I lost my husband to cancer, I never could have imagined my new life. I now live in a different state and write full-time instead of counseling clients. I knew his death would bring change, just not how or in what way. I especially could have […]
Grieving Stages: It’s Not That Simple
Grieving Don’t Need Pity, Just the Freedom to Mourn In our way, in our time, and for long as it lasts. It’s been nearly five years since my husband died — the anniversary of his death is in a couple of weeks. You would think I would move through the grieving stages. To be done and through this […]
My Wish to Have the Same Freedoms Men Enjoy
For women, such confidence and ease is never simple. As I dressed this morning, I picked up the perfume I’d recently purchased and give myself two quick sprays. I love the sweet scent of the pink liquid housed in a gorgeous glass bottle with a gold-colored stopper. I found it while wandering the duty-free shop during […]
Leaving my Sex Addict & Frida Kahlo
I did what she couldn’t - and have started over without him. As I wrapped up the last chapter of my memoir on being married to a sex addict, I researched one or two final facts. I entered a few words into the search bar, and a photograph popped up. Its content startled me, making me gasp. There […]
What It’s Like Being Married to a Sex Addict
Things I know now I wish I knew then I received an email today from a woman. A stranger. She wanted to know if I had been married to a sex addict. Unfortunately, it was. I discovered the truth two months after I’d married him. She, then, shared she likewise had the misfortune of marrying someone […]