This is the homicide timeline domestic abusers typically follow before killing their partner By Michelle Jaqua This is another guest blog which contains information and discussion on domestic abuse and violence, including homicide. This information was gleaned from research by Jane Monckton-Smith at the University of Glouchester. Intimate partner femicide (IPF) is typically seen as […]
Month: October 2020
Do You Still Love Me?
A poem on a tired marriage’s unanswered question Do you still love me? There it was — Hung in the air between us, suspended; Spoken, the burning question. Did I still love him? The weight of the years together pressed in. Too many lonely conversations, Too many dangling fights. A look passed between us. He longed to unravel the past.But […]
Hoping to be Loved, I Made the Mistake of Being Too Nice
And ended up being disrespected I heard from my ex recently. He emailed and asked for a large sum of money. Not hundreds of dollars, but thousands. Mind you, we’ve been divorced for over a year. This guy exited the relationship much richer than he entered it — and me much poorer. While married, I made the […]
Sexual Addiction is Not a Couple’s Problem
Helping You Thrive! Blaming the partner puts the burden of responsibility on the wrong person Since first writing about my marriage to a sex addict, I’ve heard from many people. Is sex addiction a gender problem? Many of the commenters shared personal stories, but some had issues with the premise of sex addiction. A few people — all men, […]
Healthy Ways to Handle Life’s Changes in the Time of COVID
Helping You Thrive! by Lisa Walker When you think about what life is like these days, do you get the feeling that things have changed in ways you never imagined? Living through a pandemic is far from normal, so it’s only natural that our lives would be different than they were pre-COVID. Maybe you’ve made […]
A Surprising Gift of Love After Death
A modern-day ghost story It was apparent death was near. Brad’s pain had become a challenge to manage. I could tell he was losing the battle against cancer. Brad was only 52 years old when he learned he had a terminal diagnosis, but he faced the end of his young life courageously. He believed in […]
After Betrayal, How I Found Truth and Forgiveness
Helping the vulnerable not just survive, but thrive Writing about it has helped me break through the lies and my over-reactive defense mechanisms For the past year, I’ve been hard at work writing a traumatic story of betrayal. It’s my story — a brutal tale that began four years ago. The events are so disturbing that the […]
A Hurricane’s Reminder-We Are Not Alone
Helping the vulnerable not just survive, but thrive Like it or not, we have the power to help or hurt each other This week, it took a hurricane to remind me that we are not alone. We like to believe that what we do happens in a vacuum. “I’m not hurting anyone,” we say. “It’s nobody’s […]
What Evil People Have Taught Me
Helping the vulnerable not just survive, but thrive Most cannot be saved. I had a conversation with someone this week that reminded me of M. Scott Peck, M.D., and his book, People of the Lie. I read the book years ago and did not understand what he was talking about in regards to evil people until […]
Healing After Being Married to a Sex Addict
Helping the vulnerable not just survive, but thrive It was in the most unlikely place - a group of women I looked at video images of these six women on my digital feed and thought of the past fifteen months we’d spent together. I joined this online group in the middle of last year as my marriage ended. […]