Celebrating my late husband on his 58th birthday It’s been five years since your passing, Brad, but you are not far from our thoughts. We miss you terribly. Happy Birthday, my love. Love you for forever, Kerry
Month: November 2020


9 Things You Need to Know When Dating in Your 50s
An old friend contacted me with some questions. Some of her single girlfriends had started to date, and their decisions surprised her—especially when it came to sex. “What’s going on? Is this normal? What’s been your experience?” she asked. As I listened to her, I was reminded of my earlier assumptions. What I didn’t know […]

How Poor Medical Care May Have Contributed to My Husband’s Death
He might have fought for his life if he’d gotten better support Once again, the United States healthcare system ranked last among seven industrialized countries, despite being the most costly. This finding doesn’t surprise me; I’ve seen our poor medical care firsthand and worry it may have led to my late husband’s early demise. My late husband, […]

How to Habit Loop Your Anxiety and Set Yourself Free
Set yourself free through the use of these habit loop steps By Kaye Smith, Ph.D. So, what was the first thing you did this morning? Did you look at your phone, grab your glasses, go to the bathroom? Whatever you did, odds on, you do the same thing in the same way, and in the […]

Are Women Responsible for Some of Men’s Bad Online Dating Habits?
We have the power to change what we expect from them There’s too much bad online dating going on out there. Let me give you an example. A Recent Bad Online Dating Experience Recently I spied someone interesting on a dating app and texted, “Hi, I like your profile. I think it’s really cool you’re into […]

Informed Consent Is Binary: It’s Either Yes or No
And the default is no By GB Rogut Trigger warning: This piece is about non consensual sex and may be too graphic or disturbing for some. It wasn’t the first time we had sex. Still, the last couple of times hadn’t been that pleasurable, and it looked like this one wasn’t going to be either. […]

Why I Hid My Neurodivergence From Myself: Could You be Too?
I’d been blending in so well that I didn’t realize I was unique More than three months ago, I learned of my neurodivergence. Autism, to be exact. Me, a 58-year-old woman who earned a Ph.D. and ran a successful counseling practice. At first, I could barely get my head around this revelation. To say I was […]