I still battle hesitancy and social anxiety I was one of those kids who experienced bullying — the awkward, nerdy type. The kind that others couldn’t resist picking on. It didn’t matter if I stayed hunched down, slumped over, and stuck to the corners of life. Somewhere on me was a neon sign that must have read “kick […]
Month: February 2021
How Honest Do We Need to Be When Dating?
Why I think radical honesty is the best policy I came across an interesting dating profile recently. The guy had swiped right on mine, so I stopped to read through his. His disclosures made me pause. Along with a few close-ups of himself, he’d written a brief description, including his blunt preferences. Listed at the bottom […]
In Lonely Search for Love
A Poem The thrumming begins low; Melodic and long. It rises deep within; Until its harmony vibrates my skin. Who will hear my harmonic cries of longing for love? Who will receive this invitation; This blue whale’s song? I wait in the cold darkness. Can you hear the sound of my heart? And dream of […]
How Being Ill-Prepared for Death Nearly Cost Me My Family
We weren’t ready for the anger that often accompanies grief No one tells you what to expect when an immediate family member sick and most of us are ill-prepared for death. You’d think everyone would naturally come together to grieve. Pain, however, does odd things to relationships. Since no one likes to talk about losing […]
How Did 5 Specialists Fail to See My Son’s Autism?
And I missed it too. Despite being a psychologist, I had a poor understanding of my son’s autism. My stereotypical views of its presentation now embarrass me. Developmental psychology wasn’t my specialty, and during my schooling, our knowledge of this condition was in its infancy. I thought autistic children were mute and locked within their interior […]
The High Cost of Abuse: I Forgot to Value My Peace of Mind
And, yours matters too A young woman posted before and after photos of herself taken a few months apart. In the first image, she looked worried. Stressed. Her expression was tense. You could see the tight lines around her mouth and eyes. She definitely had no peace of mind. In the second photo, she looked at […]
My Cheating Husband Tried to Charge Me for His Tinder Account
Yeah, I’d stayed too long My cheating husband charged his premium Tinder account to my credit card. A week early, he had walked out after we’d been married two years. Things had never been good between us; they just had gone from bad to worse. He’d been texting her again. She was someone he’d met years ago. A […]
Death is More than a Loss of Person: Its Steals Our Hope
And complicates our grief A friend texted me this morning. Her mother died yesterday. And my heart broke. Relationships with family are rarely simple. Each person is more than a familiar presence but also occupies an important role. Mother is an archetype that embodies unconscious longing, needs, and wishes. Take my mom, for instance. She is […]