He might have fought for his life if he’d gotten better support Once again, the United States healthcare system ranked last among seven industrialized countries, despite being the most costly. This finding doesn’t surprise me; I’ve seen our poor medical care firsthand and worry it may have led to my late husband’s early demise. My late husband, […]
How to Habit Loop Your Anxiety and Set Yourself Free
Set yourself free through the use of these habit loop steps By Kaye Smith, Ph.D. So, what was the first thing you did this morning? Did you look at your phone, grab your glasses, go to the bathroom? Whatever you did, odds on, you do the same thing in the same way, and in the […]
Are Women Responsible for Some of Men’s Bad Online Dating Habits?
We have the power to change what we expect from them There’s too much bad online dating going on out there. Let me give you an example. A Recent Bad Online Dating Experience Recently I spied someone interesting on a dating app and texted, “Hi, I like your profile. I think it’s really cool you’re into […]
Informed Consent Is Binary: It’s Either Yes or No
And the default is no By GB Rogut Trigger warning: This piece is about non consensual sex and may be too graphic or disturbing for some. It wasn’t the first time we had sex. Still, the last couple of times hadn’t been that pleasurable, and it looked like this one wasn’t going to be either. […]
Why I Hid My Neurodivergence From Myself: Could You be Too?
I’d been blending in so well that I didn’t realize I was unique More than three months ago, I learned of my neurodivergence. Autism, to be exact. Me, a 58-year-old woman who earned a Ph.D. and ran a successful counseling practice. At first, I could barely get my head around this revelation. To say I was […]
The 8 Stage Progression of Deadly Domestic Violence
This is the homicide timeline domestic abusers typically follow before killing their partner By Michelle Jaqua This is another guest blog which contains information and discussion on domestic abuse and violence, including homicide. This information was gleaned from research by Jane Monckton-Smith at the University of Glouchester. Intimate partner femicide (IPF) is typically seen as […]
Do You Still Love Me?
A poem on a tired marriage’s unanswered question Do you still love me? There it was — Hung in the air between us, suspended; Spoken, the burning question. Did I still love him? The weight of the years together pressed in. Too many lonely conversations, Too many dangling fights. A look passed between us. He longed to unravel the past.But […]
Hoping to be Loved, I Made the Mistake of Being Too Nice
And ended up being disrespected I heard from my ex recently. He emailed and asked for a large sum of money. Not hundreds of dollars, but thousands. Mind you, we’ve been divorced for over a year. This guy exited the relationship much richer than he entered it — and me much poorer. While married, I made the […]
Sexual Addiction is Not a Couple’s Problem
Helping You Thrive! Blaming the partner puts the burden of responsibility on the wrong person Since first writing about my marriage to a sex addict, I’ve heard from many people. Is sex addiction a gender problem? Many of the commenters shared personal stories, but some had issues with the premise of sex addiction. A few people — all men, […]
Healthy Ways to Handle Life’s Changes in the Time of COVID
Helping You Thrive! by Lisa Walker When you think about what life is like these days, do you get the feeling that things have changed in ways you never imagined? Living through a pandemic is far from normal, so it’s only natural that our lives would be different than they were pre-COVID. Maybe you’ve made […]