I Just Want to Feel Like I Belong

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Helping the vulnerable not just survive, but thrive If it looks like I have it all together it’s because I’m pretending. There’s something I’m very uncomfortable admitting — for the longest time, I’ve felt like an outsider. I’ve spent my entire life wanting to belong. I’ve longed to find a group of people who accept me as … Read more

Living in This Present Moment: A Lesson From a Dying Man

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Helping the vulnerable not just survive, but thrive He learned too late that all we have is this present moment. Brad walked into the bedroom dressed in his khaki shorts and a polo shirt, his white golf gloves still pulled high on both hands. With a big grin plastered on his face, he said, “You know, … Read more

I Dumped My Boyfriend for Getting His Feelings Hurt

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Helping the vulnerable not just survive, but thrive He didn’t like me questioning him or being insecure. Well, I did it. I dumped my boyfriend — the much younger guy — this week. I knew it was coming. Despite the great chemistry, we had lots of differences. Most of them were related to life experiences and age — life goals, hobbies, … Read more

My Shocking Discovery at 58 Years Old That I Have Autism

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A common undiagnosed or misdiagnosed condition for many women Almost two weeks ago, someone challenged a fundamental assumption I’d held about myself. This revelation has upended my world. Suddenly I feel wobbly, tentative, and not quite sure who I am. I’m undergoing a massive shift in self-understanding. As a licensed psychologist with over twenty years … Read more

On Being an Echoist–the Opposite of a Narcissist

Opposite of a narcissist

We avoid all forms of attention, even at the expense of our health Do you know what the opposite of a narcissist is? It’s not the empaths as some think. It’s the echoist. I know because I am one.  I walked into my surgeon’s office today. Four days ago, I underwent a lower facelift to deal … Read more

Common Mistake of Doing Anything for Love

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I’ve learned the hard way self-respect must come first Someone recently told me to consider the number of concessions or sacrifices I am willing to make when starting a relationship. I hadn’t considered that I might be making a grave mistake of doing anything for love. I’m embarrassed to admit that despite years of counseling others, … Read more

How Being Nice Nearly Cost Me My Vision

Being Nice

Learning the hard way the importance of sticking up for myself After spending a couple of years abroad, I’d fallen behind with the routine matters of healthcare. I had ignored dental cleanings, eye exams, and annual physicals. Yeah, I know, not good for a woman in her fifties. Dealing with an abusive marriage left little energy … Read more