How My Day Buying Wigs Reminded Me We Are All Beautiful
I went shopping for a couple of new wigs. Years ago I suffered a massive hair loss. My experience in the shop reminded me of humanity’s beauty.
Self-Improvement
Forgiveness Is the Road to Self-Love
Helping the vulnerable not just survive, but thrive I’m facing my brokenness and mistakes with greater compassion I toss and turn. Glancing at the phone, I see it’s only 2 a.m. Another sleepless night as my mind goes over the past five years of mistakes. Before I can stop myself, I begin to wonder what … Read more
Harnessing The Power Of Positive Thinking
Helping the vulnerable not just survive, but thrive It has unleashed my creativity Whenever I hear about the power of positive thinking, I fight the urge to roll my eyes. It reminds me of the character Stuart Smalley, from the SNL skit Daily Affirmation sitting in front of his mirror, saying to himself, “I am … Read more
On Being an Echoist–the Opposite of a Narcissist
We avoid all forms of attention, even at the expense of our health Do you know what the opposite of a narcissist is? It’s not the empaths as some think. It’s the echoist. I know because I am one. I walked into my surgeon’s office today. Four days ago, I underwent a lower facelift to deal … Read more
Never Again: Facing the Truth to Stop the Cycle
A closer look at the importance of introspection for lasting change This past week I’ve been flooded with memories. I’m sure it has to do with the date on the calendar. Later this month is my third wedding anniversary. And I think to myself never again. The flashbacks aren’t fond recollections, but snapshots of painful, disturbing, … Read more
My Private Battle With Poor Body Image
Passed on by the women who went before me and fueled by our culture It’s another hot day in Texas. I put on a bathing suit and head out to sit on the patio, where I can enjoy the poolside view. Looking sideways, I catch a glimpse of myself reflected in the sliding glass door. There … Read more
Leaving my Sex Addict & Frida Kahlo
I did what she couldn’t - and have started over without him. As I wrapped up the last chapter of my memoir on being married to a sex addict, I researched one or two final facts. I entered a few words into the search bar, and a photograph popped up. Its content startled me, making me gasp. There … Read more
How to Reclaim Repressed Memories on Your Own
It took patience, determination, and gentleness I stared at the blinking cursor and drew a blank as I tried to recall what happened next. This morning I had opened my Word document to start the next chapter and discovered a significant gap in recall. The particulars of this time frame had gone missing. For several … Read more
The Problem With Advice and What to Do Differently
I know you are just trying to be helpful Everyone has an opinion. Giving advice about how to live life feels good. For those few minutes, we become an expert at something. And we are reassured that in at least one area of our life, we have it under better control than someone else. Unfortunately that … Read more
7 Practical Ways to Combat the Stress
And it goes beyond the importance of a balanced diet, regular exercise, and a daily schedule. As I ended the video call with my online friends, it hit me how stressed we all are. The whole world is facing the likes of something several generations have never seen before. How are we supposed to combat … Read more