Still Doubting If It Was Abuse? Or Why You Still Feel Stuck?
You’re not crazy. You were psychologically manipulated. Now let’s figure out where you are in the healing process—so you can take the next right step in the ReclaimYou Path.
“I’m able to think more clear, I don’t feel helpless anymore. It’s like there’s this new awareness that will never go away—like I can’t turn back—it’s just there with me. It’s pretty fantastic.”
Introduction to the ReclaimYou Path
The ReclaimYou Path is a simple, trauma-aware journey out of confusion, through leaving, and into healing
Step 1: "Is this abuse or am I the problem?"
The Toxic or Troubled? quiz helps you name what's really happening in your relationship and shows you which stage of the healing process you're in.
Step 2: "I need a real roadmap, not random posts."
The Complete Recovery Collection is for when you're ready for deeper clarity and guidance, Find the validation, get a leaving plan, and discover a recovery blueprint, so you're not piecing it together alone.
Step 3: "I know it's toxic, but I still can't leave."
The First Steps to Leaving is a self-paced course that helps you make sense of why feeling frozen, guilty, or keep getting pulled back in.
Step 4: "I need help in the moment, not just in my head."
ReclaimYou App – AI-Powered Coaching Support gives you help in those moments—like the 2 a.m. spirals, the urge to text back or when you experience that wave of doubt after a good day with them.
Step 5: "I don't want to do this alone anymore."
Toxic-Free Relationship Club is for when you're ready for live support and community,. Here you can find your relational home base.
The ReclaimYOu path
Start With What Hurts Most
If you’re feeling confused, exhausted, or questioning yourself, you’re not alone. Start with the line that sounds most like you.
“I don’t know if it’s toxic or if I’m the problem.”
Toxic or Troubled? Quiz
Take the Toxic or Troubled? quiz to finally name what’s really happening.
I need a real roadmap, not random help here and there.
The Complete Recovery Collection
Get The Complete Recovery Collection and the First Steps to Leaving course to understand the trauma bond and quietly prepare your exit.
I'm out, but I'm still a mess inside.
ReclaimYou App – AI-Powered Coaching Support
Add the ReclaimYou app for ongoing support.
I just want people who get it.
Toxic-Free Relationship Club
Join the Toxic-Free Relationship Club for live calls and community support.
Breaking Free from Narcissistic Abuse Podcast
Podcast for Next Week
Tammy Triolo
Cultural Strategist, Author, and Creator of the Empathy Scorecard
episode for February 9th:
Why You Can't Feel Empathy for Yourself—And How It Keeps You Trapped with Tammy Triolo
Why does losing empathy for yourself make you the perfect target for narcissistic abuse?
How does white supremacy culture teach white women to emotionally stunt themselves through perfectionism and stoicism?
Why does community help you remember who you really are—instead of who you’ve been performing to be?
free Weekly Survivor-informed education & insight
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When you upgrade to the paid tier, you’ll unlock “Podcast Extra” exclusive interviews and automatically join the Toxic-Free Relationship Club at the Subscriber level, where you’ll get weekly healing strategies, action plans and takeaways, plus a live monthly Q&A.
About Kerry
You’re Not the Problem—But You Can Be the Solution.
I’m Dr. Kerry McAvoy—a retired psychologist and narcissistic abuse survivor. I know what it’s like to doubt your own reality, to walk on eggshells in your own home, and to feel like no one on the outside understands what’s really happening.
After my own harrowing journey through lies, betrayal, and rebuilding, I created the ReclaimYou Path to give survivors a clear, trauma-aware way forward. Instead of scattered advice and one-off sessions, everything I offer now lives inside a simple framework:
Quiz for clarity
Books & course for a roadmap
App for daily support
Club for live community
My memoir, Love You More, chronicles the shocking reality of my marriage to a sex addict and pathological liar. It’s raw, honest, and shows how even a trained psychologist can get trapped—and how you can get free.