Four Truths I Wished I’d Known Earlier About Going Bald

4 Truths I Wished I’d Known Earlier About Going Bald Growing up, I always admired my younger sisters’ long, thick manes of hair. My middle sister’s glossy, long black tresses had just enough reddish highlights that they shone with coppery streaks in the sunlight. My youngest sister’s head of hair was so thick that if … Read more

Why I Didn’t Know I’d Married a Narcissist

Why I Didn’t Know I’d Married a Narcissist Would you think as a psychologist I’d know my new husband was a narcissist? It should have been obvious, right? After all the years of education, training, and counseling experience, you think I would have recognized the signs of narcissism.  But, I didn’t.  That’s because narcissists are … Read more

The Painful Lasting Effects Bullying Has Had on My Social Life


I still battle hesitancy and social anxiety I was one of those kids who experienced bullying — the awkward, nerdy type. The kind that others couldn’t resist picking on. It didn’t matter if I stayed hunched down, slumped over, and stuck to the corners of life. Somewhere on me was a neon sign that must have read “kick … Read more

How Honest When Dating Do We Need to Be?

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Why I think radical honesty is the best policy I came across an interesting dating profile recently. The guy had swiped right on mine, so I stopped to read through his. His disclosures made me pause. Along with a few close-ups of himself, he’d written a brief description, including his blunt preferences. Listed at the bottom … Read more

In Lonely Search for Love

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A Poem The thrumming begins low; Melodic and long. It rises deep within; Until its harmony vibrates my skin. Who will hear my harmonic cries of longing for love? Who will receive this invitation; This blue whale’s song? I wait in the cold darkness. Can you hear the sound of my heart? And dream of … Read more

How Did 5 Specialists Fail to See My Son’s Autism?

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And I missed it too. Despite being a psychologist, I had a poor understanding of my son’s autism. My stereotypical views of its presentation now embarrass me. Developmental psychology wasn’t my specialty, and during my schooling, our knowledge of this condition was in its infancy. I thought autistic children were mute and locked within their interior … Read more

The High Cost of Abuse: I Forgot to Value My Peace of Mind

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And, yours matters too A young woman posted before and after photos of herself taken a few months apart. In the first image, she looked worried. Stressed. Her expression was tense. You could see the tight lines around her mouth and eyes. She definitely had no peace of mind. In the second photo, she looked at … Read more