If you’ve ridden in a car with a narcissist, then you’ve likely experienced them using their driving to intimidate, threaten, or scare you. People with narcissistic traits often use vehicles like a weapon, turning you into more of a hostage instead of a passenger.
This week, Dr. Kerry and co-host Lynn break down why road rage and narcissism frequently co-occur and how the car gets used for far more than just driving, i
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- What to actually do if you’re experiencing narcissistic abuse but you can’t leave yet
- Why “how do I make them stop?” is the wrong first question,
- Why grey rock can backfire behind the wheel
- And the dangerous assumption nearly every survivor makes about their own safety.
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LYNN STRATHDEE is a UK-based psychodynamic psychotherapist specializing in echoism, narcissistic abuse recovery, and the unconscious patterns that keep survivors stuck in repeating relationship cycles. A former educator turned therapist, Lynn brings both clinical training and lived experience to her private practice, where she works with clients online and in person. Her approach goes beyond surface-level psychoeducation to the deeper identity work that creates lasting change.
Key Moments
- 00:00 — Cars as devices for control nobody suspects
- 05:00 — The car as a metaphor for the self
- 08:06 — What their car says to the world
- 11:39 — The mattress on the floor: the car as a mask
- 14:23 — When something this ordinary makes you doubt yourself
- 17:49 — The parking-garage asthma attack 21:48 — His reality wins, no matter the danger
- 26:18 — Gender, cars, and the “little lady” hierarchy
- 29:12 — What to do if this is happening to you (→ Podcast Extra)
Dr. Kerry’s Resources
- ReclaimYou: Dr. Kerry’s AI-powered coaching app
- The Complete Recovery Collection: Narcissistic abuse resources
- First Steps to Leaving: Online self-paced digital course
- Toxic-Free Relationship Club: Live coaching & community support
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Kerry Kerr McAvoy, Ph.D, a retired psychologist & author, is an expert on cultivating healthy relationships and deconstructing narcissism.
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