Relationship Power Dynamics

What if it only takes him an hour to know exactly how to control you? That wasn’t chemistry. That wasn’t “instant connection.” A predator ran a background check on your character to know if you had the exact traits he needs to exploit. In this episode, Dr. Kerry sits down with returning author and expert, Don Hennessy. Hennessy has spent decades working directly with abusive men. He breaks down the calculated, deliberate selection process predators use to identify and groom targets. Podca…

Food shouldn’t feel like a threat — but for narcissistic abuse survivors, it often does. In this viewer stories episode, survivors share exactly how the narcissist in their life weaponized food — turning meals into rituals of control, criticism, and shame. Kerry shares her own experience too. If mealtime ever filled you with dread, this episode will name what you lived through and show you why it happened. In this episode: • The specific tactics narcissists use to weaponize food • Why this co…

In this episode, Dr. Kerry identifies the often missed sadism dressed up as pranks in this breakdown of a Smosh Pit podcast retelling of a Reddit story. We often feel the “flinch” or wrongness of the sadistic behavior in our body before categorizing it as intentionally hurtful.

The most dangerous narcissists don’t go ballistic: they peck you to death. After spending decades studying dangerous personalities, former FBI agent Joe Navarro has learned that the cruelest narcissistic abuse almost never looks the way we expect. It hides behind the withheld compliment, the public put-down disguised as a joke, the silent treatment and the affection that never comes. In this conversation, Joe and Dr. Kerry McAvoy name the covert sadism living inside everyday relationshi…

Abuse is something we imagine happens behind closed doors. For a lot of survivors, some of the most frightening moments happened not just in the home but in the passenger seat of a moving car. In this Viewers’ Stories episode, Dr. Kerry pulls directly from your comments and unpacks what each one reveals about how narcissists weaponize the car. It was never about losing the narcissist losing their temper. It was about control. And if you’ve ever braced yourself just getting into the car with s…

If you’ve ever been in a car with a narcissist, then you’ve likely seen them turn the vehicle into a weapon. In this podcast episode, learn how and why road rage and other property damage are frequent narcissistic abusers’ tools of choice.

Why has the person who claimed to love you gone years without once saying your name — not even once? When a narcissist won’t say your name, it isn’t a quirk. It’s name erasure: a slow, deliberate way of treating you as less than a full person. In this Viewers’ Stories episode, Dr. Kerry reads real survivor stories and unpacks four ways the same tactic shows up. Each one is a covert control tactic, and together they’re a form of withholding affection most survivors don’t recognize as emotional…

Narcissists and other character-disturbed partners do odd things with their loved ones’ names. Learn the four different patterns of this minimizing and objectifying psychological tactic.