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Want to Spot Red Flags the First Time You Meet? How Abusers Reveal Themselves Through Their Words, Featuring Dr. Jennie Young

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Ever ignored a gut feeling on a date because you wanted to “give him a chance”?  

This week, Dr. Jennie Young — PhD linguist and creator of the viral Burned Haystack Dating Method — reveals how the words men use in dating profiles and early messages expose exactly who they are before you've even met.  

PODCAST EXTRA EXCLUSIVE SEGMENT 

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MORE ABOUT THE PODCAST EXTRA INTERVIEW  

🔹 Dr. Young breaks down the top 5 most dangerous rhetorical patterns — with real examples from actual dating profiles — including “test and apologize,” cult leader language, threats disguised as preferences, and the “blue ribbon for bare minimum” that's almost always a red flag.  

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THE BOOK  

Burn the Haystack: Decode Dating, Torch the Duds, and Make Room for Men Who Matter by Dr. Jennie Young

MORE ABOUT DR. JENNIE YOUNG  

Dr. Jennie Young is a college professor with a PhD in rhetoric and discourse studies and a specialization in critical discourse analysis — the study of how language reveals what speakers don't want you to know. After applying her expertise to online dating, she built a 250,000-member Facebook group (Burn Haystack Dating Method) entirely by word of mouth.  

Follow her on Instagram: @word_case_scenario

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Resources

• The Complete Recovery Collection: Narcissistic abuse resources
• First Steps to Leaving: Online self-paced digital course
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