Ever wonder why your in-laws rallied around your abusive partner instead of protecting you?
This episode explores one of the most painful dynamics in narcissistic abuse: when families choose to protect the abuser and paint YOU as the problem. We revisit a past interview with Rossana where she shares her firsthand experience of this dynamic along with a Fan Mail listener who experienced something similar.
In this special episode, we’ll revisit the six psychological reasons why loving families can transform victims into villains, why “closing ranks” happens, and what you can do when you’re caught in the crossfire of toxic family loyalty.
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More About Rossana Faye
Website: https://rollercoasteroflove.ca
Instagram & TikTok: @_rollercoasteroflove
Books: Rollercoaster of Love: Healing Journal – https://amzn.to/3MyRl8B
Narc Free Journal: A Step by Step Guide to Your Freedom – https://amzn.to/44eAFcH
ROSSANA FAYE knows what it’s like to be trapped on an emotional rollercoaster. After surviving 14 years in an abusive relationship, she transformed her pain into purpose—becoming a Certified Life and Relationship Coach dedicated to helping others break free from narcissistic abuse.
As the founder of Rollercoaster of Love Inc. and host of Real Talk with Ro, Rossana creates content that’s both relatable and deeply validating. She’s the author of Rollercoaster of Love: Healing Journal and Narc Free Journal: A Step by Step Guide to Your Freedom—tools that guide survivors from trauma bonds to true freedom. Her mantra? “You cannot love someone toxic and love yourself at the same time. Always choose you.”
Submit Your Question
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Resources
- ReclaimYou: Dr. Kerry’s AI-powered coaching app
- The Complete Recovery Collection: Narcissistic abuse resources
- First Steps to Leaving: Online self-paced digital course
- Toxic-Free Relationship Club: Live coaching & community support
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Kerry Kerr McAvoy, Ph.D, a retired psychologist & author, is an expert on cultivating healthy relationships and deconstructing narcissism.
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