Breaking Free from Narcissistic Abuse

Why does every issue turn into an argument? My partner says I'm the problem

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Have you noticed how narcissists can take a seemingly straightforward decision and turn it into an exhausting, nonsensical circular argument? The constant conflict can mess with us and make us think we’re the problem.

In this episode, we will explore this common dynamic, including how to determine who’s creating the problems.

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Resources

• The Complete Recovery Collection: Narcissistic abuse resources
• First Steps to Leaving: Online self-paced digital course
• Toxic-Free Relationship Club: Live coaching & community support

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