Breaking Free from Narcissistic Abuse

"You're trying to control me!" Why Managing Boundaries with Narcissists Fails

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Have you noticed managing boundaries with narcissists always fails? That they find some tricky way to evade limit setting? 

Suddenly, you’re being accused of being too controlling or sensitive, or they can’t understand what you're asking. 

In this podcast, Lisa Sonni joins me to discuss the problems of managing boundaries with narcissists. We'll explore this issue from a narcissist's perspective: why they find boundaries threatening. The self-help tip is the importance of evaluating both partners' investment in the relationship as a measure of a healthy relationship. 

Submit your question to be answered on air here!

Resources

• The Complete Recovery Collection: Narcissistic abuse resources
• First Steps to Leaving: Online self-paced digital course
• Toxic-Free Relationship Club: Live coaching & community support

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Kerry Kerr McAvoy, Ph.D., an author and educator, helps listeners decode toxic dynamics, recognize manipulation, and rebuild self-trust.

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