They said they'd “never talk to you again” — like it was a boundary. Like it was healthy. But the silence never actually stayed silent. Behind your back, a different story was already being told behind your back.
And when you reach out, you’re blocked.
This is a smear campaign with a “no contact” mask on.
This episode, Dr. Kerry McAvoy reads from your stories — real accounts from people who lived through the attack-then-block cycle — to break down what's actually happening when a narcissist “refuses to engage.”
In this episode:
- Why narcissists weaponize “I don't argue” as a performance for an audience, not a boundary for you
- The block-and-smear pattern: how silence toward you becomes a story told behind your back
- How this tactic exploits your trauma-informed instincts, making distance look like discernment
- Why survivors are left unable to defend themselves against a narrative they never even heard
- What documenting and disengaging safely actually looks like — without chasing the last word
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Resources
- The Complete Recovery Collection: Narcissistic abuse resources
- First Steps to Leaving: Online self-paced digital course
- Toxic-Free Relationship Club: Live coaching & community support
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Kerry Kerr McAvoy, Ph.D., an author and educator, helps listeners decode toxic dynamics, recognize manipulation, and rebuild self-trust.
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