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Feeling the Urge to Snoop on Your Partner? Here's What It's Really Telling You

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“I found proof he was cheating—but was snooping really what I needed to finally leave?” 

This week's Fan Mail comes from a listener in Dublin, CA, who, after reading Dr. Kerry's book “Love You More,” recognized her own relationship mirrored Dr. Kerry's experience, including the urge to snoop. 

In this episode, Dr. Kerry explains why the urge to snoop is actually all the evidence you need that something's wrong and why finding “proof” never actually breaks the cognitive dissonance.  

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