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Feed Swap: Beneath the Apology — Shame, Image & the Illusion of Empathy with Renee Swanson & Dr. Mazella

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Why does their apology leave you feeling like the one who did something wrong?

Continuing this week's feed swap, I'm sharing a conversation from Renee Swanson's Covert Narcissism Podcast — this time a guest interview with Dr. Anthony Mazzella, a psychodynamic therapist and host of The Narcissism Decoder. 

Together they get underneath the behavior to the “why,” unpacking what they call the illusion of empathy: the moment an apology looks like remorse but is really about image control. 

A note: this is part of an ongoing series on guilt and shame, so you'll hear Renee and Dr. Mazzella reference earlier conversations and tease the next one — you can follow the whole thread on Renee's feed. 

Be gentle with yourself as you listen, and reach out to a trusted person or support resource if any of it hits close to home. 

Find more of Renee's work and her coaching at covertnarcissism.com.

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