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They Told You Who They Were on the First Date: The Narcissist Red Flags No One Taught You to Hear

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They didn't hide who they were. They told you on the first date—it’s just that nobody ever gave you the dictionary to read it.

In this highlight from Kerry's weekly live Q&A, she walks through the language manipulative people use from the very beginning, drawing on Jenny Young's research into how dangerous people reveal themselves in their own words. She shares the first-date moment she now recognizes as the earliest warning sign, and a story she's never told before about the night one sentence ended her relationship: “I can't believe you'd think that of me.”

Recommended Videos:
1. The Narcissist Never Knew You: How Dangerous People Cast You on Day One
https://youtube.com/live/ML8QUA7jTWs?feature=share
2. The Secret Skill to Spot Dangerous Men on Dating Apps
https://youtu.be/VfwNh55oAf8

In this episode, learn:
1. Why rules and non-negotiables before they even know you signal signs of high level of control
2. How “treat me right and I'll treat you like royalty” turns love into a ledger
3. The test-and-apologize tactic: pushing a boundary, then saying sorry to see how much you'll put up with
4. Why a simple question gets met with sudden hurt, and what that timing tells you
5. Three questions that reveal whether there's any room for you in the relationship

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Kerry Kerr McAvoy, Ph.D., an author and educator, helps listeners decode toxic dynamics, recognize manipulation, and rebuild self-trust.

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