In this Viewers’ Stories episode, Dr. Kerry unpacks the psychological damage done by narcissistic abuse, especially when you’re living with a partner who’s keeping a secret life.
Learn how cheaters use gaslighting, lies, and calculated reality distortion to conceal their betrayals. They want to make you question your own mind so completely that you stop listening to your instincts, destroying your self-trust.
If you’ve ever felt like you were going crazy, re-reading old texts to prove to yourself what was real, then you’ve experienced this kind of manipulation. And healing from narcissistic abuse begins when you discover your instincts were right all along.
This is the Thursday companion to Monday’s interview with therapist Cheryl Camarillo, “Sexual Addiction Looks Nothing Like What You Think”
Key Moments
- 00:00 — Married to a master of reality distortion
- 01:24 — “I can no longer trust myself”
- 03:32 — Superhuman dissociation and the secret sexual basement
- 04:56 — Becoming the detective: hunting for the second phone
- 06:42 — Minwalla’s three-pronged model: 17 women in 21 days
- 08:14 — Three truths to anchor your nervous system
To go deeper into rebuilding self-trust after betrayal, the members-only Podcast Extra covers exactly that. Join Substack & watch it immediately when you become a paid subscriber here.
Have a story of your own? Share by emailing Dr. Kerry at clients@kerrymcavoyphd.com or use this link.
Resources
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ReclaimYou: Dr. Kerry’s AI-powered coaching app
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The Complete Recovery Collection: Narcissistic abuse resources
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First Steps to Leaving: Online self-paced digital course
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Toxic-Free Relationship Club: Live coaching & community support
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Kerry Kerr McAvoy, Ph.D, a retired psychologist & author, is an expert on cultivating healthy relationships and deconstructing narcissism.
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