Breaking Free from Narcissistic Abuse

When Your Abuser Won't Leave and Won't Change: Here's Your Options

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“My abusive partner refuses to leave or get help—and I'm trapped in a 'silent divorce.' What are my actual options?” 

This week's Fan Mail question comes from a YouTube listener navigating an impossible situation: a long marriage, adult children, religious pressure against divorce, and an abusive partner who wants to maintain the status quo without doing any of the work to change. 

In this episode, Dr. Kerry untangles the confusion between church annulment and legal separation, explains why staying together without changing is still a form of abuse. 

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