Want to Stop Obsessing Over Your Ex?

Have you caught yourself constantly thinking about your ex? It’s astounding, the sheer mental energy we continue to pour into someone who brought so much distress into our lives. Separation should have been a relief, yet here we are, unable to shake off the distress. In this video, we will delve into why it’s so hard to stop the cycle of obsession.

The truth is toxic and narcissistic relationships create an all-consuming dependency. We find ourselves sacrificing our common sense to hold onto a fragile connection, enduring a relentless barrage of criticism, and losing trust in our own feelings due to constant gaslighting.

Even when it ends, the absence of our ex leaves a cavernous void filled with unanswered questions, a broken heart, and an overwhelming number of problems.

It’s no surprise our ex occupies our thoughts.

Adding to this is the trauma bond, a kind of addiction that makes getting over the past relationship a monumental challenge.

QUESTIONS:

1. Jot down all your current obsessions concerning your ex.

2. Rate each one on a scale from 1 to 10. What do your responses reveal?

3. Identify the pain point that affects you the most. Have you been hurt in this area before?

EXERCISE:

Pen a letter to your ex detailing all your feelings — but don’t send it. This is a tool for your self-discovery.

Are there any new realizations emerging?
Does articulating your feelings unearth deeper layers of pain or perhaps even relief?

Use this exercise to understand your current obstacles so you can forge a better path to recovery.

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Are you ready to take back your life?

September 10, 2023

Dr. Kerry McAvoy is a clinical psychologist, mother of three grown sons, writer, and author of Love You More.

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2 thoughts on “Stop Obsessing Over Your Ex”

Donna Carolyn Roy

June 30, 2024 at 9:01 pm

Thank you, Kerry. I listened to practically everything by Drs. Ramani and Carter, but nothing has made sense to me like your words. The others give definitions and broad strokes, but you bring it down to everyday life. They feel remote, and you feel human. Your stories are personal and immediate. 28 years ago I divorced a freaking emotionless remorselessly abusive man after 13 years of hell. I thought if I could be a good enough wife he would love me at last. Never happened. I was left a shell of my former self, in and out of mental hospitals for years, dissociated and broken. Now I understand. Him. And me. And I am learning to be fiercely protective of my own inner and outer self and seek the truth as fervently as he sought to destroy me. I am learning to love myself at last. Thank you for your vulnerability and willingness to be real.
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- Kerry McAvoy, Ph.D.
  
  August 8, 2024 at 3:21 pm
  
  Thank you so much for these kind words. I’m so glad you’re finding help!
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