Yeah, I’d stayed too long My cheating husband charged his premium Tinder account to my credit card. A week early, he had walked out after we’d been married two years. Things had never been good between us; they just had gone from bad to worse. He’d been texting her again. She was someone he’d met years ago. A […]
Category: Marriage


Happy Birthday, Brad!
Celebrating my late husband on his 58th birthday It’s been five years since your passing, Brad, but you are not far from our thoughts. We miss you terribly. Happy Birthday, my love. Love you for forever, Kerry

Do You Still Love Me?
A poem on a tired marriage’s unanswered question Do you still love me? There it was — Hung in the air between us, suspended; Spoken, the burning question. Did I still love him? The weight of the years together pressed in. Too many lonely conversations, Too many dangling fights. A look passed between us. He longed to unravel the past.But […]

A Surprising Gift of Love After Death
A modern-day ghost story It was apparent death was near. Brad’s pain had become a challenge to manage. I could tell he was losing the battle against cancer. Brad was only 52 years old when he learned he had a terminal diagnosis, but he faced the end of his young life courageously. He believed in […]

Healing After Being Married to a Sex Addict
Helping the vulnerable not just survive, but thrive It was in the most unlikely place - a group of women I looked at video images of these six women on my digital feed and thought of the past fifteen months we’d spent together. I joined this online group in the middle of last year as my marriage ended. […]

Why I Don’t Hate the Other Woman
She’s just another one of his victims It’s been a year since my ex, a self-professed sex addict, walked out of my life and into hers. I’ve been all over the map on how I feel about her. I’ve studied her in the hopes that I’d figure her out, fantasized meeting and slapping her, raged at […]

My Sexless Marriage to a Sex Addict
Contrary to popular belief, there’s less sex, not more. I used to think a sex addict’s marriage must be full of passionate adventures. My imagination pictured these couples experimenting with fun sex positions and escapades in exciting locations — like doing it on the kitchen island with plenty of whipped cream. I had no idea that it is […]

How Being Divorced Has Made Me Fearful
I don’t want to make the same mistake twice. Nearly a month ago, I stopped dating as I adjust to being divorced. A couple of times my finger hovered over one of the two online dating apps downloaded on my phone before I distracted myself with something else. The regular emails that show up in my […]

What It’s Like Being Married to a Sex Addict
Things I know now I wish I knew then I received an email today from a woman. A stranger. She wanted to know if I had been married to a sex addict. Unfortunately, it was. I discovered the truth two months after I’d married him. She, then, shared she likewise had the misfortune of marrying someone […]

Rediscovery of Me
My Rediscovery of Me after a Lifetime of Being a We Embracing my newfound autonomy after divorce I awoke this morning with a big smile. Today is the day my new television arrives. I’ve splurged — kind of, but not really. It’s a 55″ OLED flat-screen TV. For most people, this purchase probably would have been a no-big-deal — a no-brainer. […]