Why I think radical honesty is the best policy I came across an interesting dating profile recently. The guy had swiped right on mine, so I stopped to read through his. His disclosures made me pause. Along with a few close-ups of himself, he’d written a brief description, including his blunt preferences. Listed at the bottom […]
Category: Dating


I’m Addicted to Love. Could You Be Too?
This problem is more common than you’d think Online dating has given me an uncomfortable look at what it means to be addicted to love. The entire process is intoxicating. That includes the first glance at a profile to texting someone and finally meeting. I try to stay detached during this initial stage. Yet, in the […]

I Got Stood Up. What I Learned From Being Left Waiting
I was reminded of several valuable truths I had a shocking lesson in dating this week. Something that has never happened to me before. I got stood up. Here’s how I got stood up As I drove to the cafe, I heard the familiar ding of an incoming text. I glanced at my phone and […]

9 Things You Need to Know When Dating in Your 50s
An old friend contacted me with some questions. Some of her single girlfriends had started to date, and their decisions surprised her—especially when it came to sex. “What’s going on? Is this normal? What’s been your experience?” she asked. As I listened to her, I was reminded of my earlier assumptions. What I didn’t know […]

Are Women Responsible for Some of Men’s Bad Online Dating Habits?
We have the power to change what we expect from them There’s too much bad online dating going on out there. Let me give you an example. A Recent Bad Online Dating Experience Recently I spied someone interesting on a dating app and texted, “Hi, I like your profile. I think it’s really cool you’re into […]

Why I Think Online Dating Is a Failing Social Experiment
Helping the vulnerable not just survive, but thrive We’re trying to make a significant decision with too little information My first online dating experience was nearly five years ago. I still remember the excitement I felt when writing the bio. How I sweated over which descriptors to use and whether my photos conveyed a particular […]

I Dumped My Boyfriend for Getting His Feelings Hurt
Helping the vulnerable not just survive, but thrive He didn’t like me questioning him or being insecure. Well, I did it. I dumped my boyfriend — the much younger guy — this week. I knew it was coming. Despite the great chemistry, we had lots of differences. Most of them were related to life experiences and age — life goals, hobbies, […]

Being a Cougar Was Never My Intention
But I sure am enjoying the benefits “You can have any man you want,” my ex used to say. I’d heard that before and each time I was never quite sure what was meant by it. I think the statement is ridiculous. If it were true, then I would have dated the most handsome basketball […]

Is This Guy an Online Dating Shark?
There’s what he says and then what he actually means You may have heard the old adage, there are plenty of good fish in the sea, when it comes to meeting available men. That may be true, but I’d like to point out that the phrase neglects to say what kind of fish. And be […]

The Hookup Mentality is Ruining My Dating Life
I find it tiresome and disturbing. Last week I closed both of my online dating profiles frustrated with the pervasive hookup mentality . I arrived at this decision after a busy week of three first dates. Two out of the three guys wanted to see me again, so I guess you could say it went […]