Healing Tools & Recovery Skills

How to make your holidays special despite the yearly toxic family drama!

Do you struggle each holiday with the toxic family drama? In this episode, Tara and I discuss the common traps that can keep us from having a meaningful celebration. The self-help tip is how to re-adjust our mindset and expectations so that we accept imperfection as a part of every experience. Submit your question to be answered on air here! Resources The Complete Recovery Collection: Narcissistic abuse resourcesFirst Steps to Leaving: Online self-paced digital courseToxic-Free Relations…

Are you arguing a lot? Here’s why you should not try to win a fight with a narcissist

Are you fighting a lot? Maybe it’s better to learn how not to win an argument with a narcissist. In this podcast, Dr. Kerry and Tara delve into the problem of arguing with a narcissist. Why these discussions often go sideways with the end result of hurt feelings and being defeated. And the self-help tip is practical things to remember the next time a narcissist tries to bait you into a heated discussion. How to stay cool and in control of yourself. Links: Nameless Narcissist Video: htt…

Does the narcissist always ruin your holidays? How to handle celebration nightmares!

Have you wondered why narcissists ruin holidays? Why they can’t let you enjoy Thanksgiving, Christmas, or your birthday? In this podcast episode, Dr. Kerry and Tara share their insights and tips, along with some personal stories about this common pattern among narcissists and other toxic people. And the self-help tip is the importance of having “self-care” boundaries to handle uncomfortable holiday situations. Submit your question to be answered on air here! Resources The Complete Rec…

Are all narcissists abusive? Aren’t we unfairly demonizing a group of people?

Are all narcissists abusive? Aren’t we unfairly classifying a group of wounded people as toxic or dangerous? Tara and I address this common accusation about narcissists and other toxic people in this podcast episode. The self-help tip is how to use a detailed history of our personal background to determine if we might be the one causing the relationship problems. Submit your question to be answered on air here! Resources The Complete Recovery Collection: Narcissistic abuse resourcesFirst S…

Is it a boundary or an ultimatum? Why narcissists hate limit setting

Have you wondered why narcissists hate limit setting? Why are your boundaries treated as though optional, yet they treat theirs like ultimatums? In this podcast episode, Dr. Kerry and Tara explore the common difficulties we experience limit setting with narcissists. Instead of a self-help tip, we’ve answered a listener’s question that was emailed to us. She asked how do you know when someone’s addiction recovery isn’t real. Submit your question to be answered on air here! Resources The Comp…

Why isn’t my narcissistic partner changing when they say they’re trying?

Have you ever asked yourself, Why isn’t my narcissistic partner changing despite going to therapy? Many narcissists claim they’ve never worked harder yet their abusive behavior continues. In this podcast episode, Kerry and Tara share from their personal experiences how to know when a narcissistic partner is truly doing the work to save a troubled relationship. And the self-help tip is a simple exercise on how to test a narcissistic partner’s sincerity in making real change. Submit your que…

Were you emotionally abused or narcissistically abused? Why the differences matter.

Why distinguish narcissistic abuse from emotional abuse? Aren’t both referring to the same thing? In this episode, Kerry and Tara take a closer look at how narcissistic abuse uses deception to confuse and dupe victims. And the self-help tip is on how to use expressive writing for healing from abuse. LINK: Defining Narcissistic Abuse: The Case for Deception as Abuse by Kristen Milstead, PhD Submit your question to be answered on air here! Resources The Complete Recovery Collection: Narciss…

Feeling knocked down? Defeated? Here’s Kerry’s secret on how to become an overcomer

In this episode, Tara flips the script and interviews Kerry. Dive in as Kerry reveals a hidden gem that’s been her shield against tough times. Tune in to discover how you too can stand tall against the shadows of narcissistic harm. Links: How He Gets Into Her Head by Don HennesseySubmit your question to be answered on air here! Resources The Complete Recovery Collection: Narcissistic abuse resourcesFirst Steps to Leaving: Online self-paced digital courseToxic-Free Relationship Club: Li…

Why am I so confused? The Making & Breaking of a Trauma Bond with Lisa Sonni

Send us a text In this episode, Tara and Kerry interview Lisa Sonni, author and trauma bond expert, on the development of powerful psychological attachments. Lisa shares how to recognize if we’re  trauma bonded and how to know if we are breaking this toxic interpersonal connection. This episode demystifies the intense attachment so many of … Read more

How to find joy and renewed power after surviving abuse: An interview with Tara

In this episode, we get a behind-the-scenes look into our co-host, Tara’s life. She shares how she has learned to find joy and where her real source of power is after surviving abuse. Links: Tara’s WebsiteGrit: The Power of Passion and PerseveranceSubmit your question to be answered on air here! Resources The Complete Recovery Collection: Narcissistic abuse resourcesFirst Steps to Leaving: Online self-paced digital courseToxic-Free Relationship Club: Live coaching & community suppo…