Narcissism Explained

When You Can’t Leave or Stay: How to Recognize a Trauma Bond

There comes a point when you know you need to leave, but you can’t. The connection with your loved one is too powerful. In this episode, Rossana Faye joins me to discuss the signs and symptoms of a late-stage trauma bond. Submit your question to be answered on air here! Resources The Complete Recovery Collection: Narcissistic abuse resourcesFirst Steps to Leaving: Online self-paced digital courseToxic-Free Relationship Club: Live coaching & community supportFollow Kerry! Yo…

When You’ve Been Driven Mad and Snap: The Power of Reactive Abuse

Has someone driven you to the breaking point? When you just lose it and snap? This week, Rossana Faye joins me to discuss the destructive power of reactive abuse. Victims often feel terribly guilty afterward, yet they’ve been deliberately provoked into reacting. Submit your question to be answered on air here! Resources The Complete Recovery Collection: Narcissistic abuse resourcesFirst Steps to Leaving: Online self-paced digital courseToxic-Free Relationship Club: Live coaching &amp…

Why is My Partner a Narcissist? Which is it—A Nature or Nurture Problem?

Are narcissists born or made? And why does this question matter, considering the terrible toll of narcissistic abuse? This week, psychotherapist Dr. Peter Salerno joins me to discuss the root causes of narcissism along with the common misunderstandings about Narcissistic Personality Disorder. Learn the importance of understanding the underpinning of this character makeup when it comes to healing and recovery. Follow Dr. Peter Salerno on social media: @drpetersalerno Learn more about …

How Narcissistic Abuse Could Cost You Your Identity: The Dangers of Echoism

Are you speaking up less? Fawning more? There’s a high cost to living with a narcissist, and it could be your identity. This week, Lynn Strathdee, psychodynamic therapist, joins me to discuss echoism, the true opposite personality style to narcissism. She shares how fawning could result in a loss of our very self. To learn more about Lynn’s work: Website: https://www.echoismrecovery.com TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@theechochamber?is_from_webapp=1&sender_device=pc Lynn Strathde…

How Relationships Become Dangerous: The Slow Shift from Toxic to Deadly

Dangerous relationships rarely begin physically abusive. Initially, you think you’ve met a fantastic partner, but slowly, the toxicity turns into something more insidious and lethal. Trigger warning: this week, Lisa Sonni and I share vulnerable details of how we missed the early signs of danger in our narcissistic relationships. IF YOU ARE A RISK of immediate danger or abuse, please get in touch with the National Domestic Violence Hotline at 800-799-7233. References: Why Does He Do That? b…

If You’re in a Narcissistic Relationship, Why Couples Therapy is a Bad Idea

When there’s trouble in a relationship, most couples are urged to seek couples counseling. In today’s episode, Lisa Sonni joins me to talk about why this suggestion is a terrible idea if your partner is a narcissist. Too many couples therapists lack the education to identify narcissistic abuse, and narcissistic and toxic partners are highly sophisticated at manipulating the therapeutic process. For help breaking a trauma bond, see Lisa’s resources: https://strongerthanbefore.ca Submit yo…

Why Narcissists Have Problems with Being Securely Attached to You

What’s the connection between attachment styles and narcissism? This week, Dr. Erin Leonard, a practicing psychotherapist, joins me to discuss the common problems narcissists have with emotional intelligence and creating secure connections with others. She’s recently authored How to Outsmart a Narcissist, where she describes the best ways to protect ourselves from narcissists’ efforts to manipulate and exploit. More about Dr. Leonard: BOOK- How to Outsmart a Narcissist: Use Emotio…

Dr. Carter’s Best Advice About Narcissists That Every Survivor Needs to Know

Have you wondered what a narcissist was thinking? Why would they do what they do? Do they intentionally know they were being cruel? This week, I’m going to re-release an interview I did with Dr. Carter in 2023. In it, he gave a unique perspective on the narcissist’s mindset and explained their worldview and defensiveness. Learn how they so effectively turn the tables on us, making us think we’re the crazy ones. Stay safe this week! I look forward to having you back for our new episode…

Why Family Court Too Often Takes the Side of the Narcissistic Abuser

Have you noticed that too off family court becomes just another battle ground for the narcissist? Lisa Sonni joins me this week to discuss post-separation of abuse. Most of us passionately want to protect our children from our toxic ex only to experience more helplessness in the mediation and courtrooms. Resources Referenced: Emotionally Bulletproof Kids https://strongerthanbefore.ca/webinar-bulletproof-kids When Dad Hurts Mom by Lundy Bancroft: https://amzn.to/3Xbg8mj Angela – Family C…

Why Most People, Including the Victim, Fail to Recognize Narcissistic Abuse

Are you being abused and don’t know it? Not only is society blind to narcissistic abuse, but so are most victims. In this episode, Lisa Sonni joins me to talk about why narcissistic abuse is so difficult to spot, even to the victims, and the role this plays in the difficulty of getting help. Resources Mentioned: More on Hannah Neeleman & the Ballerina Farms controversyHow He Gets Into Her Head by Don HennesseyHow I Met, Married, and Got Scammed by a Gold Digger TikTok seriesSubmit you…