When You Finally Leave—Why a Narcissist Becomes a “Monster”

If you’re experiencing betrayal trauma after discovering your spouse’s secret life, how do you finally leave a long-term narcissistic partner without triggering their rage? A listener from the US writes in, “We’ve been in and out of therapy for 7 years trying to save our marriage. Two months ago I found out he wasn’t sober again. I left and I’m now living with my mother. How do I get out without him turning into a monster? I need strength. I need to be done.” In this episode, Kerr…

Why Narcissists Always Make Their Victims Look Unhinged

Why does the person who calls out a narcissist end up looking like the unhinged one? A Facebook follower writes in, “Why does the person recognizing and confronting the narcissistic behavior often appear unhinged to everyone else?” In this episode, Dr. Kerry explains why narcissists always appear calm and credible while their victims come across as unstable. Submit Your Question If you’d like Dr. Kerry to answer your question on air, email it to clients@kerrymcavoyphd.com or…

The #1 Mistake People Make When Divorcing a Narcissist

Are you walking into your divorce expecting the court to finally see the truth about your narcissistic ex? This week, divorce attorney Hannah Bell Hembree joins Dr. Kerry to pull back the curtain on what really happens in the courtroom when you’re leaving a narcissist. With nearly two decades of legal experience and her own custody battle behind her, Hannah shares the hard truths every survivor needs to hear before they file. PODCAST EXTRA EXCLUSIVE SEGMENT Find the exclusiv…

Do Narcissists Enjoy Hurting You? Here’s Dr. Kerry’s Hard Truth

Why does someone who divorces a narcissist keep going back to them? A listener writes in, “My best friend divorced her narcissistic ex two months ago — but she keeps talking to him, then ignoring him, then reaching out again. She says she wants to move on, but she can’t seem to break the cycle.” In this episode, Dr. Kerry explains why leaving a narcissist doesn’t automatically break the trauma bond and why survivors struggle to escape. Submit Your Question If you’d l…

My Brother Is Stealing My Mother’s Final Years & She Refuses to Stop Him

Take the Toxic or Troubled? Quiz and get specialized help for your specific situation. https://kerrymcavoyphd.fillout.com/toxic-troubled-survey My 62-year-old narcissistic brother moved in with my 86-year-old mother “temporarily” after his divorce six years ago. Now she’s suffocating, the rest of the family stays away, and she won’t let anyone intervene. In this episode, Dr. Kerry explains why some mothers choose guilt over peace — and what to do when someone refuses to set healthy rela…

Want to Spot Red Flags the First Time You Meet? How Abusers Reveal Themselves Through Their Words, Featuring Dr. Jennie Young

Ever ignored a gut feeling on a date because you wanted to “give him a chance”? This week, Dr. Jennie Young — PhD linguist and creator of the viral Burned Haystack Dating Method — reveals how the words men use in dating profiles and early messages expose exactly who they are before you’ve even met. PODCAST EXTRA EXCLUSIVE SEGMENT Find the exclusive second segment and weekly newsletter here. MORE ABOUT THE PODCAST EXTRA INTERVIEW Dr. Young breaks down the top…

Why Did They Pick You? The Trait in ‘Good’ People Narcissists Love to Exploit

Why do narcissists target good, empathetic people in relationships? This week, forensic psychologist Dr. Peter Favaro reveals why being a good person might actually make you MORE vulnerable to narcissists—and how that one irrational belief creates the exact confusion toxic people exploit. Wondering if you met a “bad person?” Find out with this free gift from Dr. Kerry! PODCAST EXTRA EXCLUSIVE SEGMENT Find the exclusive second segment and weekly newsletter here. MORE AB…

Why Narcissists Follow You When You Move Away—And How to Create Distance That Actually Works

My narcissistic brother is relocating to town after I moved away to escape him—why is he doing this? In this episode, Dr. Kerry explains why narcissists will often close the gap when there’s physical distance. How do you gain psychological distance when you can’t move away? She also offers helpful strategies for creating boundaries when distance fails. Submit Your Question If you’d like Dr. Kerry to answer your question on air, email it to clients@kerrymcavoyphd.com or use t…

When Your Abuser Won’t Leave and Won’t Change: Here’s Your Options

“My abusive partner refuses to leave or get help—and I’m trapped in a ‘silent divorce.’ What are my actual options?” This week’s Fan Mail question comes from a YouTube listener navigating an impossible situation: a long marriage, adult children, religious pressure against divorce, and an abusive partner who wants to maintain the status quo without doing any of the work to change. In this episode, Dr. Kerry untangles the confusion between church annulment and legal separation, expl…

Why You’re Struggling to Feel Empathy for Yourself — Tammy Triolo

Lost empathy for yourself? You’ve already lost the fight. This week, Tammy Triolo reveals the shocking connection between self-empathy loss and narcissistic abuse. PODCAST EXTRA EXCLUSIVE SEGMENT Find the exclusive second segment and weekly newsletter here. MORE ABOUT THE PODCAST EXTRA INTERVIEW Tammy walks you through recognizing when thoughts are just thoughts—not truth—and how to stop surrendering to negative beliefs. Get immediate access to this ext…