Relationship Power Dynamics

Could I be the narcissist? The power of reactive abuse to make victims feel crazy.

In this week’s episode, Kerry and Tara tackle the power of reactive abuse to make some narcissistic abuse victims feel crazy. And the self-help tip is how to increase the effectiveness of an affirmation by pairing it with a positive behavior. Submit your question to be answered on air here! Resources ReclaimYou: Dr. Kerry’s AI-powered coaching appThe Complete Recovery Collection: Narcissistic abuse resourcesFirst Steps to Leaving: Online self-paced digital courseToxic-Free Relationshi…

Why do I love my abuser? The power of a trauma bond explained

In this week’s episode, Kerry and Tara give an intimate look at the emotional power of a trauma bond. How trauma bonds create mental confusion and a psychological dependence on the abuser. And, the self-help tip is on the importance of identifying and protecting non-negotiable boundaries. Links: Breaking Free from Narcissistic Abuse season 1 episode 58: Listen here.Submit your question to be answered on air here! Resources ReclaimYou: Dr. Kerry’s AI-powered coaching appThe Complete Reco…

Why does every issue turn into an argument? My partner says I’m the problem

Have you noticed how narcissists can take a seemingly straightforward decision and turn it into an exhausting, nonsensical circular argument? The constant conflict can mess with us and make us think we’re the problem. In this episode, we will explore this common dynamic, including how to determine who’s creating the problems. Submit your question to be answered on air here! Resources ReclaimYou: Dr. Kerry’s AI-powered coaching appThe Complete Recovery Collection: Narcissistic abuse resourcesF…

How do I combat my partner turning every issue into a “me” problem?

Have you heard of the acronym DARVO? It’s a nasty type of gaslighting that flips the script and attacks us when we bring up an issue. In this episode, we will address the underlying dynamic of this abusive practice along with the three steps to combatting it effectively. Submit your question to be answered on air here! Resources ReclaimYou: Dr. Kerry’s AI-powered coaching appThe Complete Recovery Collection: Narcissistic abuse resourcesFirst Steps to Leaving: Online self-paced digital courseT…

What quality did I miss when I got into a relationship with a toxic person?

Every victim wants to know how they got into a toxic or dangerous relationship. Was there an early sign of danger that they missed? Were they too trusting, gullible, or naive? Most victims have been accused of being codependent. What does research have to say? In this episode, we will dig deeper into this topic, particularly Sandra L. Brown’s groundbreaking research into the dynamics of pathological love relationships. What personality qualities made us predator’s target, and how can we prote…

Why doesn’t my partner want sex? Is it because of women’s sex drive?

There are many assumptions and myths about sexuality, especially regarding the differences between men and women. How does the objectification of women impact their sexuality, particularly their interest in sex? And what improves a couple’s connection when it comes to sex? In this episode, we will be looking at some of the common dynamics that affect physical intimacy. Come as You Are by Emily Nagoski, Ph.D. The Passionate Marriage by David Schnarch, Ph.D. Submit your question to be answere…

What’s wrong with me? Why I can’t I leave this toxic relationship?

A trauma bond is a fear-based connection between abusers and victims. Combine that with the mental confusion of cognitive dissonance, and the victim is stuck. In this podcast episode, we’ll examine why this powerful dynamic makes it so difficult to leave. We’ll also cover the five types of narcissists and the difference between overt and covert narcissism. Submit your question to be answered on air here! Resources ReclaimYou: Dr. Kerry’s AI-powered coaching appThe Complete Recovery Collecti…

I know I should leave this toxic relationship but why can’t I?

What makes it so difficult to leave a toxic relationship? This question is the one I most frequently get asked. So why don’t those trapped in a narcissistically abusive relationship walk out? In this episode, we will discuss the underlying dynamics that make it challenging to end a toxic relationship. Submit your question to be answered on air here! Resources ReclaimYou: Dr. Kerry’s AI-powered coaching appThe Complete Recovery Collection: Narcissistic abuse resourcesFirst Steps to Leaving: On…

Is there something wrong with me for falling in love with a narcissist?

Nearly every abuse survivor wants to know why they got into a relationship with a narcissist. Are we co-dependent, people-pleasers or could there be another dynamic in play? In this episode we’ll talk about the latest research into this area as well as discuss the definition of marital coercion and how to grow empathy in our children. Submit your question to be answered on air here! Resources ReclaimYou: Dr. Kerry’s AI-powered coaching appThe Complete Recovery Collection: Narcissistic abuse…

Are narcissists different than the rest of us? Might they be evil?

The latest research has found the brain of narcissists, sociopaths, and psychopaths to be different, causing them not to see the world differently. In this episode we will tackle this difficult topic, including if it’s going too far to call narcissists’ behavior evil. Submit your question to be answered on air here! Resources ReclaimYou: Dr. Kerry’s AI-powered coaching appThe Complete Recovery Collection: Narcissistic abuse resourcesFirst Steps to Leaving: Online self-paced digital co…