Relationship Power Dynamics

How Narcissistic Abuse Could Cost You Your Identity: The Dangers of Echoism

Are you speaking up less? Fawning more? There’s a high cost to living with a narcissist, and it could be your identity. This week, Lynn Strathdee, psychodynamic therapist, joins me to discuss echoism, the true opposite personality style to narcissism. She shares how fawning could result in a loss of our very self. To learn more about Lynn’s work: Website: https://www.echoismrecovery.com TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@theechochamber?is_from_webapp=1&sender_device=pc Lynn Strathde…

When Your Partner is a Narcissist, Why the Term “Narcissistic” Matters

These days, it seems like everyone is a narcissist. Is the label of narcissist or narcissistic harmful or helpful? This week, Lisa Sonni joins me to discuss the importance and impact of identifying narcissistic abuse and dysfunctional relationship dynamics. Submit your question to be answered on air here! Resources The Complete Recovery Collection: Narcissistic abuse resourcesFirst Steps to Leaving: Online self-paced digital courseToxic-Free Relationship Club: Live coaching &am…

I desperately love and fear them: The Terrifying Power of a Trauma Bond

Could you be trauma-bonded to a narcissist? Are you battling a strange mix of love and fear? Lisa Sonni joins me this week to discuss trauma bonds–an intense connection to another person that is very difficult to break. We think we feel love when it’s based on fear. Submit your question to be answered on air here! Resources The Complete Recovery Collection: Narcissistic abuse resourcesFirst Steps to Leaving: Online self-paced digital courseToxic-Free Relationship Club: Live coachin…

Is my partner a narcissist? Highlights from Dr. Kerry’s 3 Favorite Interviews

Relationships with narcissists can be confounding, confusing, and incredibly frustrating. Join Dr. Kerry for this holiday episode when she revisits the highlights of her three favorite interviews. Hear Dr. Les Carter’s explanation of why narcissists are so tricky, Lisa Sonni’s three steps to breaking a trauma bond, and Dr. Robin Stern’s disturbing description of gaslighting’s power. To listen to these full episodes: Dr. Les Carter: https://www.breakingfreenarcissisticabuse.com/podcast/s…

“You’re trying to control me!” Why Managing Boundaries with Narcissists Fails

Have you noticed managing boundaries with narcissists always fails? That they find some tricky way to evade limit setting? Suddenly, you’re being accused of being too controlling or sensitive, or they can’t understand what you’re asking. In this podcast, Lisa Sonni joins me to discuss the problems of managing boundaries with narcissists. We’ll explore this issue from a narcissist’s perspective: why they find boundaries threatening. The self-help tip is the importance of evaluati…

Is It Really Abuse If I Can’t Do What I Want? What is Coercive Control?

Is being overly controlling a form of abuse? In this podcast episode, Lisa Sonni joins me to discuss the subtleties of coercive control. Learn how to recognize the common control tactic of this insidious form of abuse. And this week’s self-help tip is to assess how your partner’s feelings and demands affect you. Are you doing less and becoming increasingly isolated to please them? Submit your question to be answered on air here! Resources The Complete Recovery Collection: Narcissist…

What’s wrong with me? The Power of Gaslighting to Confuse and Control: Interview with Dr. Robin Stern

Have you wondered what’s wrong with me? This could be a sign of gaslighting. Dr. Robin Stern, psychoanalyst, author, and expert on gaslighting, joins me to discuss the underlying dynamics of a toxic or narcissistic relationship. She delves into the hidden motivations of both the gaslighter as well as the gaslightee. •Learn more about Dr. Stern •The Gaslight Effect Podcast •My Interview with Dr. Stern on The Gaslight Effect Podcast •The Gaslight Effect book Submit your question to be a…

When Fear of Change Keeps You from Leaving: How to Say Goodbye to a Toxic Life

Leaving often brings along with it a fear of change. We might dread how change will affect our kids or our friendships. Maybe we’re concerned about how leaving could disrupt life as we know it. In this podcast episode, Tara and Dr. Kerry discuss the fears of change they faced and how they overcame them to leave. Tara also is leaving the show and shares about her future plans. The self-help tip is the power of letter writing to find closure after leaving a toxic relationship.&nbs…

Don’t Trust Yourself? How Self-Doubt Keeps Us Stuck in a Bad Relationship

Are you stuck in a bad relationship? Are you wondering if you have good enough reasons enough to leave? In this podcast episode, Rossana Faye, Rollercoaster of Love, joins to me to discuss how self-doubt can trap us in a bad relationship. How we can get stuck in our own heads, which only adds to the confusion we already feel in narcissistic relationships. And the self-help tip is the power of finding forgiveness for ourselves through acceptance and love. Submit your question to be answere…

Are you arguing a lot? Here’s why you should not try to win a fight with a narcissist

Are you fighting a lot? Maybe it’s better to learn how not to win an argument with a narcissist. In this podcast, Dr. Kerry and Tara delve into the problem of arguing with a narcissist. Why these discussions often go sideways with the end result of hurt feelings and being defeated. And the self-help tip is practical things to remember the next time a narcissist tries to bait you into a heated discussion. How to stay cool and in control of yourself. Links: Nameless Narcissist Video: htt…