Healing Tools & Recovery Skills

I’ve lost my sense of self after narcissistic abuse. How do I reclaim it?

Narcissistic abuse damages our sense of self because our sense of self is constantly in flux. An exchange of psychological influence occurs between us and those around us. This episode will look closely at this process and how abuse impacts it as well as outline some ways to begin healing self-esteem after abuse. Submit your question to be answered on air here! Resources The Complete Recovery Collection: Narcissistic abuse resourcesFirst Steps to Leaving: Online self-paced digital courseToxic…

Why does every issue turn into an argument? My partner says I’m the problem

Have you noticed how narcissists can take a seemingly straightforward decision and turn it into an exhausting, nonsensical circular argument? The constant conflict can mess with us and make us think we’re the problem. In this episode, we will explore this common dynamic, including how to determine who’s creating the problems. Submit your question to be answered on air here! Resources The Complete Recovery Collection: Narcissistic abuse resourcesFirst Steps to Leaving: Online self-paced digita…

Why can’t I find a therapist who knows something about narcissistic abuse?

Anyone looking for a mental health clinician with expertise in narcissistic abuse knows this is challenging. What makes this so difficult? In this episode, we’ll explain why finding a therapist is difficult and give tips on how to vet a potential one. Submit your question to be answered on air here! Resources The Complete Recovery Collection: Narcissistic abuse resourcesFirst Steps to Leaving: Online self-paced digital courseToxic-Free Relationship Club: Live coaching & community supportF…

I think I’m trauma bonded. Now what? How do I start my healing?

Trauma bonds are painful connection with another person that is based on fear. There’s an addictive quality making them very hard to break. In this episode, we will briefly define a trauma bond and then identify the initial steps to breaking one. Submit your question to be answered on air here! Resources The Complete Recovery Collection: Narcissistic abuse resourcesFirst Steps to Leaving: Online self-paced digital courseToxic-Free Relationship Club: Live coaching & community supportFollow…

Is it healthy to obsess over my past narcissistic partner and what happened to me?

It’s become popular to spend time thinking about psychopathic and narcissistic abuses—for us to obsess over what’s happened to us. In this episode, we’ll explore whether this way of thinking is good for us and how to tell if we’re falling into unhealthiness as we try to make sense of the Submit your question to be answered on air here! Resources The Complete Recovery Collection: Narcissistic abuse resourcesFirst Steps to Leaving: Online self-paced digital courseToxic-Free Relationship C…

How do I rebuild trust in myself after surviving narcissistic abuse?

It’s tough when you first leave a narcissistically abusive relationship. Your partner has made most of the decision, and over time, you’ve given up more and more of yourself, betraying yourself and your sense of safety. How is trust rebuilt? In this episode, we will examine why reclaiming our self-integrity and relying on our intuition is challenging, along with a few practical steps to begin your healing. Submit your question to be answered on air here! Resources The Complete Recovery …

Should we blame victims for not spotting the signs they’ve met a dangerous person?

I recently started reading a book that’s been around a while—Neil Strauss’ book called The Game, though he’s since come out against the practices described in it. It’s all about his experiences of learning how to manipulate women sexually through post-hypnotic suggestions and other psychologically manipulative strategies. Despite knowing there are online resources and groups encouraging predatory behavior, we tend to hold victims responsible for the abuse. In this episode, we will take a clos…

Why can’t I leave my partner? The seven stages of a trauma bond

Have you heard of the term “trauma bond?” It’s a condition similar to being brainwashed by Stockholm’s Syndrome. Victims recovering from narcissistic abuse liken the breaking of a trauma bond to overcoming a heroin addiction. In this podcast episode, we will cover the seven stages of a trauma bond and how to begin recovery. Submit your question to be answered on air here! Resources The Complete Recovery Collection: Narcissistic abuse resourcesFirst Steps to Leaving: Online self-paced digital …

Am I a bad friend if I shut someone down for talking about a toxic relationship?

It’s become popular to call it “trauma dumping” when someone talks about their abuse. But is that an accurate description? Might we be harming others when we pathologize their need to share? In today’s episode, we’ll look closely at why victims tend to overshare traumatic experiences and how we can help support them in the healing process. Submit your question to be answered on air here! Resources The Complete Recovery Collection: Narcissistic abuse resourcesFirst Steps to Leaving: Online sel…

I just left the narcissist; how do I stop this terrible pain?

I can’t even begin to describe the horrific pain I felt after leaving a narcissistically abusive relationship. The intense confusion, rage, sense of betrayal, and fear. Some have likened this stage to heroin withdrawal. In this episode, we’ll talk about how to begin healing after leaving a toxic relationship. We’ll also touch if spirituality can save narcissists from this disorder and if the partner gets a better version of our narcissistic ex. How He Gets Into Her Head: The Mind of a Male In…