Grieving Don’t Need Pity, Just the Freedom to Mourn In our way, in our time, and for long as it lasts. It’s been nearly five years since my husband died — the anniversary of his death is in a couple of weeks. You would think I would move through the grieving stages. To be done and through this […]
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Being Widowed is More Painful than Being Divorced
At least it is today as I remember my husband on our wedding anniversary. The calendar rolled over to today’s date, May 19, and my mind flashed to where I was thirty-six years ago. I can’t believe as I celebrate this day, I do so as a widow. A starry-eyed new college graduate, today was […]

Living With Cancer in a COVID-19 World
My Son’s No-Win Healthcare Decision “Mom, I wanted to let you know I just spoke to the doctor about my cancer treatment. About whether or not I’m going to continue with chemotherapy,” my son texted me. “What did you decide?” I asked. I knew this moment would come. I held my breath as I waited […]

Learning to Live with Grief
No Such Thing as Being Ready While enjoying one of my guilty pleasures which is to watch a replay of my favorite television show over lunch, one of the characters made a statement that gave me pause with its simplicity and profundity. I had to repeat it out loud to hear it again. And as I […]

Interview with Unique Literature Post
I was recently interviewed by Key Jeffreys, host and author of Unique Literature Post. I loved his questions which required me to dig deep into my writing journey and the reasons for my books with their integration of a psychological perspective with biblical truth. I discuss my upcoming book The Hard Road Home, which explores […]

Risky Love: Loving Someone Despite the Costs
The Cost of Loving Another I can tell Brad’s time is growing short. He is much weaker and now struggles to hold up his arms. This morning the doctor shared that his digestive system has grown quiet as his body saves its reserves to keep his lungs breathing and his heart beating. He sleeps almost […]

Birth Pangs from Life to a New Life
Death as a Transition As I look out of Trillium Woods’ window from Brad’s room, it is peaceful. This same word would currently apply to him. He has been very quiet and at peace the past fourteen hours as he sleeps nearly around the clock. Yesterday, during one of his brief periods of alertness, he […]

Changes, and Other Painful Life Truths
Sometimes Life Shakes Us Apart The Lord is close to the brokenhearted and saves those who are crushed in spirit. Psalms 34:18 I haven’t posted updates for several weeks for complicated reasons. Bradley, my husband, was diagnosed with terminal cancer earlier this year. Respecting Brad’s right to privacy and protecting his dignity have been two […]